This blog I am writing is the result of questions that keeps coming back...All this started when I came across a facebook profile of my friend's friend which reads relationship status as "open relation"..I have seen this status many times at many places but never really knew what it meant.
Well it's not like I didnot have any idea but I was never sure about this..I searched the online dictionaries and found some amazing meaning..
1.A relationship in which two people agree that they want to be together, but can't exactly promise that they won't see other people too. Basically, to have it all: a significant other and the freedom to hook up with other people. Common during college for many post-high school relationships.
2.An open relationship is a relationship where one person does not own the other. The couple are not exclusively seeing each other and can date, flirt and hook up with other people should they wish to do so. In a true open relationship the couple will be fully honest with each other (unlike most regular relationships). They will not get pissed at each other for stupid things such as not ringing the day before, wearing a slutty top, passing out cold in a club, kissing that lesbian in the lift. Infact they will just love each other for who they are and support each other through times of need. Although other people will say they are sluts and it will never work, they onlys say this because they are jealous. In the end the couple will get bored of seeing other people because they realise they are the best two out there.
I must admit this sounds like something that is in sync with true nature..free soul..imagine a life where you can date your partners friend,flirt just about anyone you want to..if not to mention the ***....I admit relationship are not always easy...its sometimes about suppressing your feelings...I don't know how many of you know about Osho..but the open relationship is in line with the Osho philosophy(religion??)
Having said that I think whatever you feel about this "honesty" in open relationship its nothing compares with the honesty that exist in a committed relation..the feeling of sacrifice would probably never exist in this kind of relationships..it feels really nice to know if someone's inclination towards anyone else apart from from you irks you like nothing more..the small pleasures of caring...you know jealousy is also a kind in love..would you get that in open relationship??i believe even the excitement is also missing when it comes to open relationships..I donno the more advancement with technology we are becoming more animal than human...it looks good with animals..but not with people..whats with people eating flash??when small babies becomes rich's favorite food..something is seriously wrong...i am not against naturist but should there exist a limit??Again argument for the naturist is to not to have any limit...i don't know but these all messed up..
Personally I have nothing against anyone in open relationship....i know this is highly opinion-ed piece of crap but again common people you are naturist..you allow people without any boundaries...with that i can safely say I would beg to differ when it comes open relationships.I always believe homosexual or lesbians relations are perfectly justifiable..because this is something that the society suppressed them for ages...the genders exist are not only male and female...but open relationship is a move backwards..at least for me!!
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
carrera de la vida la carrera de paz
It's been ages since I sat down to write something...It's not like I did not want to but it always due to my laziness.If I can manage to sort out this "Boy you will go a long distance"--says my old man.Who am I to protest??
Its for the first time I sitting to write something when the mind is completely blank.Every time I sat down before I had words oozing into my ears prompting me to write.But today I feel some emptiness.
Sometimes I use to wonder why we are like this?why our life can't get any simpler?is it me or everyone else is feeling or going through the same.we are entering a phase which is perhaps the most crucial point of our life..at 25 we all are asking only one question to ourselves..what we really want from life??is it money?is it knowledge?is it love or is it peace?
I tried to analyze this question and I found after fulfilling our basics (hey don't get me wrong all branded items fall into this category,i mean to say complacent level..the point where u know u can't compete any more financially...gonna explain...don't worry).......we don't require money..after doing study it leads into again emptiness...(these are bores anyway!!)......we all want is appreciation...trust me nothing compares to it..appreciation,admiration self esteem are the words people won't admit but they seek for....(I also want a small admiration for this piece of shit..!!who doesnot??)..
The race we run in our lives only because we want to get ahead without even know why r we running the race at first place??the reason is simple we want to get applauded for running better than other...often heard of the terms like not challenging enough..not fat salaries...see the hidden fact is again admiration....we want a job which will perhaps lead our lives into misery...why??is it because it's more challenging?or will give more money??Nope...to prove myself better than yours..My wish is to stay with my family and earn enough for them..why won't I choose a easy way when I know it will lead me into peace of mind.....because yaar I will be termed as someone who doesnot fit for running in the undeclared competition of getting ahead...we want our child to go into the best colleges only because it will be a proof that he is running well for himself n his family.......competitiveness..the blue eyes word of corporates actually works in everyday human life..it's just that they are being open to it......
I too running the same distance...actually I believe I don;t have the guts to put these competition behind me..If I had confidence in myself probably I wouldnot had to shout it loud..but again I believe one day I would have that confidence in myself I would stop running and will search out for the journey of my inner peace...
So bring it on now.............Bring It On ahora
Its for the first time I sitting to write something when the mind is completely blank.Every time I sat down before I had words oozing into my ears prompting me to write.But today I feel some emptiness.
Sometimes I use to wonder why we are like this?why our life can't get any simpler?is it me or everyone else is feeling or going through the same.we are entering a phase which is perhaps the most crucial point of our life..at 25 we all are asking only one question to ourselves..what we really want from life??is it money?is it knowledge?is it love or is it peace?
I tried to analyze this question and I found after fulfilling our basics (hey don't get me wrong all branded items fall into this category,i mean to say complacent level..the point where u know u can't compete any more financially...gonna explain...don't worry).......we don't require money..after doing study it leads into again emptiness...(these are bores anyway!!)......we all want is appreciation...trust me nothing compares to it..appreciation,admiration self esteem are the words people won't admit but they seek for....(I also want a small admiration for this piece of shit..!!who doesnot??)..
The race we run in our lives only because we want to get ahead without even know why r we running the race at first place??the reason is simple we want to get applauded for running better than other...often heard of the terms like not challenging enough..not fat salaries...see the hidden fact is again admiration....we want a job which will perhaps lead our lives into misery...why??is it because it's more challenging?or will give more money??Nope...to prove myself better than yours..My wish is to stay with my family and earn enough for them..why won't I choose a easy way when I know it will lead me into peace of mind.....because yaar I will be termed as someone who doesnot fit for running in the undeclared competition of getting ahead...we want our child to go into the best colleges only because it will be a proof that he is running well for himself n his family.......competitiveness..the blue eyes word of corporates actually works in everyday human life..it's just that they are being open to it......
I too running the same distance...actually I believe I don;t have the guts to put these competition behind me..If I had confidence in myself probably I wouldnot had to shout it loud..but again I believe one day I would have that confidence in myself I would stop running and will search out for the journey of my inner peace...
So bring it on now.............Bring It On ahora
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